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Announcing the launch of “The Adventures of Unstructured Time” radio program

It is with pleasure to announce the introduction of a new internet radio show that will start on Monday, September 10th airing from 11:00-12:00AM CST at 21.6 THE NET.  “The Adventures of Unstructured Time” will air every Monday during this time period.  Co-hosting the show will be author and speaker Chuck Inman along with author and radio host “Rancher Ron” Hoesterery.  We will be discussing the non-financial issues baby boomers deal with in retirement or as they get ready to retire.

A key component of the program will be discussing elements such as the impact retirement has on relationships, priorities, planning, default behaviors, decision making and much more.  You know all those things we wrestle with trying to figure out our best journey in retirement. There will be a key component concerning the effect of Chemical Brain Freezes and how to stay in the game during difficulty and stress.

Some of the most stressful situations we find ourselves entangled with in regards to retirement are dealing with facing the unknown of the future.  Retired or getting close to retirement there are plenty of unknowns which we encounter. Understanding how the brain works during stressful situations is key to positive self-leadership and providing a path through the unknown.

So be sure to tune into this new program “The Adventures of Unstructured Time” with your hosts Chuck Inman and Ron Hoesterey. The program will be aired on 21.6 THE NET 11:00-12:00AM CST on Monday mornings and a repeat of the recorded program on Wednesdays 3:00-4:00PM, Thursdays 6:00-7:00PM and Fridays 11:00-12:00AM, again at 21.6 THE NET.

 

Being Your Best on Your Next Adventure

No coastingHave you ever asked yourself the question “What would it look like if I became my personal best on my next adventure? Most people just rise to a level of acceptability and not excellence. A great question Mike Rayburn (www.MikeRayburn.com) raised during a recent presentation. “Have you resolved to be your best?” What do you think that would look like?
In today’s world most people coast through life and that’s fine. The one thing you need to recognize and understand is that the problem with coasting is that it’s all downhill. If comfort is your goal, success is not in your future.
So what does it take for you to become the best at what you do? Interesting question because most of us know what we need to do but we just don’t do it. This why a sense of purpose is so important to us. What are those goals and adventures that are so important we don’t want to approach them half-hearted or in a coasting mode? Do you really want to be a half-hearted spouse, parent, friend or co-worker? Every adventure we embark on has an impact on others and do we provide a positive impact? Anything worth doing is worth doing well. But sometimes we need help and this can be our biggest stumbling block.
You’ve heard people talk about being self-taught and we all teach ourselves quite a bit and the Internet makes it easier everyday. However sometimes when we are self-taught we fail to notice that our teachers aren’t great in every area. Take the time and effort to find good coaches to help you with you adventures. It can have a big impact.
Sometimes when we set out on a new adventure we start by compromising when setting our goals. We aim too low and wind up settling for mediocrity and second best. Instead, continue to work on asking the question “What if? What would this adventure look like? How could I make this happen and what would be the positive impact on those around me?”
Tough questions to ask, even tougher questions to answer when you are true to yourself. But by asking these questions and answering them truthfully, you define who you are as you embark on your next adventure.
Thanks for coming along!

What if, When Making Plans for the Next Adventure

Mike RayburnThere I was, working and planning away on my new adventure and feeling good about it. Then I had an opportunity to go see Mike Rayburn(www.MikeRayburn.com) live at a recent program. He was absolutely phenomenal. Not only a gifted musician and storyteller but he really got you thinking. He has a book titled “What If?” and I would suggest purchasing it on his website. I wanted to point out just a few key things Mike got me thinking about as I plan my new adventure.

He asks the question, “What if?” Not meaning that you are going to do it but rather just asking what is possible. What if I could? How would that work if I could?
He points out that our default behavior in life is that we look at or for reasons not to do things. Instead we should change our default behavior to where we look for reasons we can do things! A very simplistic but astute rationale on how we can get things done. He also points out the only way to manage change is to create change. Again our default behavior is to fight change. What if we shifted that to creating change and embracing change? It creates a completely different picture doesn’t it? The one thing we know to be true about our plans is that nothing ever goes according to plan! So embrace change.
Here is the reason for these default behaviors: We take problems and put them on a pedestal and worship them. Mike’s perspective is, quit driving through life with the brakes on and get creative. The world need’s our creativity. He lined out three steps to get started:
1. Outside Observation – get that 30,000-foot view of what you are dealing with and get a handle of the size and scope.
2. Take a problem or situation and say, “What is the Opportunity?” Then ask, “What if?”
3. Open up creativity and take physical action on it.
Here are a couple of his other thoughts, which will get your thinking moving in the right direction:
A. Set goals you can’t achieve, not 5-10% increases. What does it take to double what you want to do?
B. Don’t start with what’s possible?, start with what’s cool?. The type of goal it takes courage to think about.
A sense of purpose is the most motivating factor. What is your sense of purpose? Some good food for thought until next time.
Thanks for coming along.

Teaching and Learning Need to be in Sync

Michael J FoxTeaching and learning need to be in sync to be successful. Whether it is in school or the business world. To be able to learn and then apply your learning is even better. Sometimes we have material put before us and there is just not a connection nor an application. Simon Sinek has a very good TED Talk on How Great Leaders Inspire Action. It’s a few years old but if you haven’t seen it, it’s definitely worth watching.
Start with why — how great leaders inspire action | Simon Sinek | TEDxPugetSound
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=u4ZoJKF_VuA

The Backwards Brain Bicycle

BicycleThere are times when we need to have a difficult conversation and it is just tough to turn that difficult conversation into a positive experience. Our brain does some very strange things during difficulty and stress and we wonder why it is so difficult to accomplish our goals.
This short video utilizes the skills of riding a bicycle to demonstrate how our brain works and the default behaviors we acquire. What is intriguing is the difficulty in overcoming these default behaviors. Consistency is a big factor in creating new constructive behaviors.
After watching this video think about the skill sets, behaviors and routines we have that come to us as easy as riding a bicycle but yet may be holding us back from what we want to achieve. We may not even be aware of these behaviors until we start to analyze why we haven’t reached all of goals.

Copy and paste into your browser to watch this unique video. (Smarter Every Day 133)

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“Chemical Brain Freeze® ” Book release

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New book just released – “Chemical Brain Freeze® -How to Stay in the Game During Difficulty and Stress”. This is Chuck’s new book that demonstrates how to reach higher performance levels.
Our behaviors are affected by the fast-paced world we live in and the stress and difficulties that come with this hectic pace. We need to be at our best during the most stressful situations but our brain isn’t on the same wavelength. Chuck teaches you how to stay engaged in those stressful situations and perform at your best.
Chemical Brain Freeze® explores what happens when we get stressed out and how we can handle situations more productively:
• How the brain works during difficulty and stress
• How we get derailed from reaching our goals

You will learn:
• What you can do to stay in the game during pressure situations
• How to overcome default behaviors
• How to increase performance both professionally and personally
Go to the Chuck Inman on-line store or Amazon.com and purchase your copy today!

What stops us from reaching our goals?

boy fishingWhen I was a small child, my family went fishing with my aunt and uncle at their favorite lake. To get to their boat you had to go down stairs to a raft and then paddle out in a small skiff to retrieve the boat. I am one of the first on the raft along with my aunt and uncle. Before I put on my life jacket, I walk over to the edge of the raft and fall into the lake.

Aunt Pauline is in shock when she hears the splash and then can’t find me on the raft. She freezes in place. Uncle Bill moves quickly to the edge, grabs my arm and pulls me back up on the raft. I’m wet but no worse for wear.

Later Aunt Pauline confesses, “I was so shocked I couldn’t do anything. I couldn’t scream, move or think. I just stood there.”

Sometimes events in our lives, like watching someone fall off a raft, cause us to have a Chemical Brain Freeze®where we freeze and can’t move. But have you noticed there are times in our everyday lives where we feel stuck in a rut and we can’t move just like aunt Pauline? When we question why we aren’t moving forward and reaching our goals, we realize there are default behaviors holding us back.

In my new book coming out in a couple of weeks, Chemical Brain Freeze®– How to Stay in the Game during Difficulty and Stress, we look at default behaviors and reasons behind the behaviors that hold us back.

It is fascinating to understand what keeps us from becoming all that we can be and reaching the goals that are most important to us.

We’ll continue to explore this concept in the next couple of blogs.

Thanks for coming along.boy fishing

Exceptional leaders understand default behaviors

AphephobiaOver the last several weeks we have been discussing how exceptional leaders play big by staying in the game during difficult and stressful times. We’ve covered how default reactions by the amygdala can cause us to act out and we may not even realize we are doing it. Exceptional leaders have self-awareness and understand the impact they have on those they lead. Last week I ran across a great little story on a default behavior we can probably all relate to at some time.

There was an old song by Sting, lead singer of the British rock group “The Police”, which had the lyrics “Don’t stand so close to me.”

Well guess what? The amygdala really doesn’t like people getting too close to us. In different societies personal space is varied. In parts of Asia you never look someone in the eyes, because it is considered very offensive. In western society we have about a two-foot circumference of personal space. Someone encroaches on that space and our amygdala triage center starts shouting, “Warning, Warning, trespassers!”

In Australia they did a study on shoppers and the change in attitude of the shoppers when someone encroached their space. The study group hired “relatively attractive” phantom shoppers in their 30’s to ever so lightly brush up against shoppers or just stand near them. The results were those who were targeted, either lightly brushed by the phantom shoppers or had their space encroached, spent less time in the store and when surveyed they had a more negative brand evaluation of the store. The amygdala had gone on high alert due to encroachment of space or touching.

The results showed that people who didn’t get crowded were more likely to linger and buy something they liked. The amygdala was soothed and customers could focus on what they were shopping for at the moment.

Just an example to show how even exceptional leaders have to be on high alert for default behaviors. We are constantly being bombarded with stimuli and our brain will react to it or if we are aware we can respond to it.

Thanks for coming along.

How to Lead During Difficulty and Stress – The Value of Gratitude

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Last week we talked about what you can do when you feel a Chemical Brain Freeze (CBF) coming on during stressful times.  One of the things I mentioned was gratitude.  This is a very powerful tool for two reasons.
1.    Your mind can’t hold fear and gratitude together at the same time.  Gratitude wins out every time.
2.    With gratitude you release some great chemicals (serotonin and dopamine) that combat cortisol and it’s adverse side affects.

After you have stopped and taken a couple of deep breaths its time to work on gratitude.  If you can quickly recall a story about something that you are truly grateful for, something that has an impact on your life, you can get your mind to release these chemicals to counter the CBF.  Here is my favorite gratitude story:

It is one of those beautiful spring days where the butterflies are testing their wings on the breeze and the grass blades are making their way up through the warm ground. My five-year- old daughter, Lindsey, and I are at the park for some exercise. She is on her girly-girl bike and I am on my roller blades. We get to the end of this long path and stop for a water break.
There is a huge oak tree with big limbs going out in every direction. One big limb goes out over this little creek, and someone has tied a rope around the limb and left it hanging. Lindsey sees the rope and asks, “Dad, can we swing across the creek?”
Of course being the prudent father I say, “No. We don’t know if the rope is strong enough much less the branch. Plus if something happens, we fall into the mud and gunk in the creek.” These all seemed to be good fatherly reasons that little girls understand so well.
Her response was “We never get to do anything fun!”
I’m standing here thinking, “Here we are in the park on a beautiful day riding and skating and she thinks we aren’t doing anything fun!” Then it hits me “So when do you do something fun like this?”
I said, “Ok, let me try it out and see if the rope and branch
will hold us.” I get out of my skates and find a long stick and pulled the rope over. I gave it a good tug or two and then preceded to jump out over the creek, everything holds fast and I swing back and forth a time or two. Lindsey was squealing with delight on the bank.
I tell her, “I’m going to bend down, you put your arms around me and then wrap your legs around my waist and hold
on tight. We’ll go on the count of three. Ready? One, two, thhhhrrrreeeee,”
There is nothing sweeter in the world than a 5 year old giggling hysterically as you swing out over a creek. She is holding me tight around my neck. When we get done she is just grinning from ear to ear. Later that night when I put her to bed she is still talking about the swing. I leave her room and walk down the hall and I hear her calling me. I walk back into her room and ask “What’s up?”
She says, “Daddy, I was still thinking about swinging over that creek with you and I can’t get this smile off my face!”

This is my story that helps me do the chemical battle to rid myself of the toxins from a CBF.
You need to come up with a story you own which will allow you to go deep about being grateful and be able to do some chemical battles against the toxins. In times of stress, the story and gratitude that you conjure up should be so strong that you don’t have to go through the entire story. With the story just shared, I only have to think about Lindsey’s arms being around my neck and I can feel a calmness come over me within moments.  It’s the ability to stay in the game during difficulty and stress that allows leaders to excel and lead on to great things.
Thanks for coming along!

What are you trying to create?

What are you trying to create?
A doctor wanted to transform his business into a patient-valued medical practice. In his staff meeting one day, he introduced this concept and the vision he had of creating this exquisite patient-valued center.  He kept referring to patients being treated the same way customers are treated at the legendary Four Season’s Hotels.  This hotel chain redefined luxury as service for the customer.
For the first couple of staff meetings the doctor kept talking about the service-oriented management of the Four Seasons until one lady on his staff raised her hand.
“We were talking amongst ourselves and none of us have ever experienced a Four Season hotel type of service.  We really don’t know what you are referring to in regards to that type of service.”
The doctor decided a field trip would be appropriate so he could share his vision with them.  He felt a comparison would be the best way to show the difference in service.
First he took the staff to a gourmet hamburger joint where they had really good hamburgers served on picnic tables covered with paper tablecloths and paper napkins.  Everyone loved the great hamburgers.
The next week they went to the Four Season’s restaurant for hamburgers served on white cloth tablecloths, white cloth napkins and service with an attention to the details.
The doctor then asked the group the following week,
“We went and had hamburgers at two different restaurants.  Both served good hamburgers. Did you notice a difference? “
The staff finally understood what it meant to provide value added service to your customers.
When you share your vision make sure that those coming along for the journey understand and can visualize what the end result will look like for them.  It’s not only enough to ensure they know what it looks like but they should be able to touch it, feel it, taste it, squeeze it or whatever it takes to make it tangible for them.
As in the example of the staff at the doctor’s office, they now understand what the impact of a smile will do for customer satisfaction and service. More importantly they understand what the lack of a smile can mean. Once they understand the vision then they can get enthused, can be supportive and prepare for the journey.

Thanks for coming along.