What is your next Adventure for 2016!
It’s that time of year again when we exit the old year and bring in the New Year. Of course resolutions make up a big part of that celebrating of bringing in the New Year. It’s interesting to note that almost 80% of resolutions don’t get done. I wanted to share with you a true story about an event that happened to me in Sydney Australia and it very subtlety gets the point of what we need to do to make our plans and adventures happen. It’s only a 4-minute story but it might change your perspective on goal setting and resolutions and prepare for your next adventure.
Enjoy and let’s have a great 2016
Have you ever asked yourself the question “What would it look like if I became my personal best on my next adventure? Most people just rise to a level of acceptability and not excellence. A great question Mike Rayburn (www.MikeRayburn.com) raised during a recent presentation. “Have you resolved to be your best?” What do you think that would look like?
In today’s world most people coast through life and that’s fine. The one thing you need to recognize and understand is that the problem with coasting is that it’s all downhill. If comfort is your goal, success is not in your future.
So what does it take for you to become the best at what you do? Interesting question because most of us know what we need to do but we just don’t do it. This why a sense of purpose is so important to us. What are those goals and adventures that are so important we don’t want to approach them half-hearted or in a coasting mode? Do you really want to be a half-hearted spouse, parent, friend or co-worker? Every adventure we embark on has an impact on others and do we provide a positive impact? Anything worth doing is worth doing well. But sometimes we need help and this can be our biggest stumbling block.
You’ve heard people talk about being self-taught and we all teach ourselves quite a bit and the Internet makes it easier everyday. However sometimes when we are self-taught we fail to notice that our teachers aren’t great in every area. Take the time and effort to find good coaches to help you with you adventures. It can have a big impact.
Sometimes when we set out on a new adventure we start by compromising when setting our goals. We aim too low and wind up settling for mediocrity and second best. Instead, continue to work on asking the question “What if? What would this adventure look like? How could I make this happen and what would be the positive impact on those around me?”
Tough questions to ask, even tougher questions to answer when you are true to yourself. But by asking these questions and answering them truthfully, you define who you are as you embark on your next adventure.
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There I was, working and planning away on my new adventure and feeling good about it. Then I had an opportunity to go see Mike Rayburn(www.MikeRayburn.com) live at a recent program. He was absolutely phenomenal. Not only a gifted musician and storyteller but he really got you thinking. He has a book titled “What If?” and I would suggest purchasing it on his website. I wanted to point out just a few key things Mike got me thinking about as I plan my new adventure.
He asks the question, “What if?” Not meaning that you are going to do it but rather just asking what is possible. What if I could? How would that work if I could?
He points out that our default behavior in life is that we look at or for reasons not to do things. Instead we should change our default behavior to where we look for reasons we can do things! A very simplistic but astute rationale on how we can get things done. He also points out the only way to manage change is to create change. Again our default behavior is to fight change. What if we shifted that to creating change and embracing change? It creates a completely different picture doesn’t it? The one thing we know to be true about our plans is that nothing ever goes according to plan! So embrace change.
Here is the reason for these default behaviors: We take problems and put them on a pedestal and worship them. Mike’s perspective is, quit driving through life with the brakes on and get creative. The world need’s our creativity. He lined out three steps to get started:
1. Outside Observation – get that 30,000-foot view of what you are dealing with and get a handle of the size and scope.
2. Take a problem or situation and say, “What is the Opportunity?” Then ask, “What if?”
3. Open up creativity and take physical action on it.
Here are a couple of his other thoughts, which will get your thinking moving in the right direction:
A. Set goals you can’t achieve, not 5-10% increases. What does it take to double what you want to do?
B. Don’t start with what’s possible?, start with what’s cool?. The type of goal it takes courage to think about.
A sense of purpose is the most motivating factor. What is your sense of purpose? Some good food for thought until next time.
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The great Helen Keller provided this prolific statement, “Life is either a daring adventure or nothing at all!” What a great way to look at our lives. Helen Keller overcame so much adversity and became an inspiration encouraging boldness and audacity. We may not have the adversity Helen Keller did, but we do have our ups and downs, our successes and failures and our starts and stops. Sometimes life doesn’t turn out exactly as we plan but the key question is, ”What do we do about it?”
I have watched people who have stumbled and they just struggle trying to get back up and moving forward. Sometimes they get moving again but its like they are in a fog and not really living life but rather just going through the motions.
What is it that we have to do to begin living the life we want to have and move in the direction of our dreams? In my book Chemical Brain Freeze, I talk about overcoming default behaviors and moving forward. These are some key thoughts to making a positive move in order to get you moving in the direction you want to go.
Sometimes it just makes sense to break things down into smaller steps.
Summer has just about come to an end and it was a great summer. We usually think of all kinds of adventures to be had during the summer months.
Now ask yourself the simple question; “What’s my next adventure?” What’s my next adventure for today? This week? Next month? Next year? Come up with an adventure and go make it happen. It can be such a positive experience. Don’t wait for something to come to you. Go make something happen and have fun with! You’ll be glad you did! In the weeks ahead I’ll fill you in on what I have been working on the last half of this summer and what an adventure I’ll be starting. Over 25 years ago I was told I couldn’t do something and I decided now was the time to go it.
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This week a good friend shared this perspective with me. He said, “The trouble with America today is that the adventure is gone.” I showed my grandson his Mom’s hiking stick she had when she was little. It had feathers, a tiny pine cone and beads she had used to decorate it. I carved her name into the side of the stick. We journeyed for years. Each summer I would carve another summer hiking ring at the bottom for our adventures. There were 13 rings she had accrued, when I showed it to my grandson. I don’t know if he had a clue what it was I told him about heritage. He just picked up the stick and started walking. He has that adventure gene in him. The same gene that made America great. I think we may need more hiking sticks in America today. It’s still a great country full of adventure, even if 2 1/2yr olds teach us this lesson instead of today’s Congress. What is your next adventure?
I don’t follow NASCAR closely but occasionally something comes up that is interesting. About a week ago a classical example of a Chemical Brain Freeze happened in NASCAR racing and I wanted to share with you. The key is to realize Chemical Brain Freezes occur in all occupations, sometimes regardless of the training.
Dale Earnhardt Jr. was continuing to defend his race series standings when leading in the race at Kentucky Speedway this incident happened. A bump from his No. 88 Chevrolet sent Danica Patrick’s car into the wall and ruined her race on Lap 207 of 267.
He stated that “I did not mean to wreck Patrick but a problem with my car’s brakes resulted in the contact.”
Upset about getting wrecked, Patrick drove into the back of Earnhardt’s car on pit road moments later and did not speak with reporters after the race. Keep in mind NASCAR cars cost anywhere from $125,000-$150,000.
“She flew off the handle, got pissed off, our spotters communicated and told her about the brakes, and she still ran into us on pit road for whatever reason,” Earnhardt said on his podcast.
Chemical Brain Freezes do happen and sometimes the consequences can have a major impact. What type of Chemical Brain Freezes do you see in your environment?
We are midway through the month of January and I’m already noticing a decrease in people at the fitness center. Right after the first of the year, people flocked into the fitness centers vowing to uphold their New Year’s resolutions to get into shape and lose weight with their new memberships. How are you doing with your resolutions?
In my book “Chemical Brain Freeze – How to Stay in the Game During Difficulty and Stress”, I discuss default behaviors and how we get off track from our goals and resolutions. Sometimes it’s understanding the unmet emotional needs that drive our behaviors, which can cause these to become default behaviors. Everyone has sincere thoughts and ideas about making changes. Sometimes it is health related, other times it just to get the benefits from getting back into shape.
I hear people talk about feeling self conscious about going to the fitness center to work out. That portion of the brain called the amygdala is warning us we may not feel like we fit in properly. Our default behavior kicks in and we wind up talking ourselves out of going to the gym. Here is the interesting aspect of this type of self-talk. We get all worked up about what other people may be thinking about us. In reality nobody cares what you do, they all think everyone is looking at them. To overcome our default behaviors in this situation we need to understand why we want to get fit with our resolutions.
If you take just a little bit of time to work on what your fitness goals are, such as losing weight, muscle toning or increasing aerobic time and then figure out what the rewards will be from these workouts during the week. Write them down and keep track on a calendar. Give yourself benchmarks. Celebrate when hit your goals. Simple effective way to overcome default behaviors.
Guess what? If you can overcome default behaviors that keep you from exercising you can use the same strategy for any goal you have set for 2015. Don’t wait until October to start working on your goals. Start now and watch what happens.
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Our behaviors are affected by the fast-paced world we live in and the stress and difficulties that come with this hectic pace. We need to be at our best during the most stressful situations but our brain isn’t on the same wavelength. Chuck teaches you how to stay engaged in those stressful situations and perform at your best.
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What scares us?
It’s interesting to watch some of the cable shows about ghost hunters, big-foot hunters and other things that go bump in the night. We all have fears of different kinds but what is interesting to note is that we are only born with two fears. Do you know what those are? Take a moment to think about it, what two fears would we be born with that would help us survive? The two fears are the fear of falling and the fear of loud noises. Every other fear we have is a learned fear. Amazing isn’t it? However our brain will respond to our learned fears exactly the same way it will respond to the fears we are born with as a species.
Think of the fear of falling and the fear of loud noises. One occupation that comes to mind where they have to deal with this combination of fears on a daily basis is a dental practice. What is one of the first things that is done to you as you sit in a dental chair? You are lowered backwards in the chair, fear of falling. One of the other things if you’re having work done on your teeth is that a noisy instrument is placed inside your mouth about as close to your eardrum as you can get, the fear of loud noises. Dental practices struggle with patient retention and sometimes just the factor of dealing with the two born fears have can a major impact.
Most of our learned fears come from other people and what scares them. We learn from watching them behave when they encounter a spider, snake or even a difficult discussion. Talk around a campfire with a group of people about ghost stories and people will scare themselves silly. You never see a couple of homicide detectives standing looking at a corpse and proclaiming, “It looks like another ghost murder.” Do you know of anyone who has ever been killed by a ghost? Me either.
There is a part of our brain called the amygdala that deals with our fears, whether they are the 2 born fears or the learned fears we have. We are going to explore how the amygdala responds to these threats, whether real or perceptive in the next several blogs. We’ll also put it into perspective on how exceptional leaders deal with conquering fears.
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As we close out the year 2013 and prepare for 2014, it is a good time to reflect on our accomplishments this year and then look at some of the missed goals we didn’t achieve. It’s easy to pat ourselves on the back and glow in our accomplishments but what about those goals we consider important enough to make our list but we didn’t get around to completing. Do we take them off of our list for 2014 or add them back on, hoping we will accomplish them in the new year?
One of the key questions to ask ourselves as we plan for 2014 is: What are we trying to create? What is the reason behind making a change? Do you have a picture of what the end result looks like? Are there examples or models of what you are trying to accomplish? Charles Garfield in his book Peak Performance showed with his research that peak athletes and peak performers were visualizers. They see their goal, they feel it and experience it before they actually go out and try to accomplish it.
I like to think about it as getting above the fray, gaining that vista view and seeing your objective clearly. When you can see clearly where you’re going, you create a picture that can be repeated in your mind over and over. This picture then let’s you know how accomplishing your goals will have an impact on your life both professionally and personally.
When difficult situations arise you can stay calm because you know where you are going and can make the proper decisions to get to the end result that matters. If you don’t know where you are going then you have no clue if you are making a good or bad decision and fear begins to creep into your decision making process. Take the time to truly understand where you are headed and why it’s important to you.
You will get comfortable with the decisions you have to make, and the fear will not be a deciding factor in how you make decisions.
Take some time to create a clear picture of where you want to go in 2014. It will be worth the effort.
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